On Having Another Child

Us 3

Us 3

We were trying to make Zoë take her afternoon nap when she just doesn’t stop screaming, tousling over and trying to stand up but bumping back down because she has her sleeping bag on. We are on 2 weeks holidays – at home, that is – as we are both so tired and stressed from trying to juggle our careers and family life.
My colleagues told me that to take 2 weeks off from work and just staying at home is a total nutcase. Well, they don’t have a child like we do. They are all living their “happy”, single life with their partners.

In the midst of Zoë’s screams that can be basically heard round the entire house, I popped the question: “One more?” And he immediately got the message and started shaking her head from left to right as if saying “No.”

Raising a child, especially if he or she is at his or her earlier years is no joke at all. Nope. No joke at all. My Zoë takes up all our hours when she is awake! Of course, you can leave her on the floor to crawl, and play, and look around, and try to stand up, and place every single thing in her mouth – and you have to be with her with your watchful eyes – while ironing!

When we were planning the future before, he told me that he wanted to have 2 or 3 kids – at least 1 boy and 1 girl. He was an only child. I eyed him suspiciously as I came from a big family. When I gave birth the not so normal way and almost risked the life of my baby and my own, he immediately said that 1 is enough. He said that it is better to have 1 child and be with me than to have 2 children without me.

Also, having to raise a child nowadays is ridiculously expensive! But again, money is not the issue here.

So, will we have another baby? Maybe no. Or maybe yes. But as for the moment, there is no plan.

I am looking at Zoë now and wondering – if I am to have another child, will I love the next one as much as I love her now? She is my everything! Our little princess.

Of course I will. More than my life.

Day 5 of 5

Zoë's First Birthday

Zoë’s First Birthday

Happy Birthday Zoë!!

Hi Baby,

A year ago from today, I saw you for the first time after the doctor and the nurses placed you on top of my chest. You felt so warm laying there on top of Mama. I felt so alive though everything felt surreal. You were really there – out, and ready to start your life with us.

Since today is your special day, I will not be repeating what has already been mentioned in my letter for you when you were 16 weeks old. Today, we will celebrate your life, Mama’s life.. our lives.

Happy Birthday Baby!
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Day 4 of 5

Zoë, Simba and Ajax

Zoë, Simba and Ajax

Dear Zoë,

This was taken from the Notes app of Mama’s phone which served as my Diary on the same day last year in the hospital.

08:53 04/05/2012
I was not able to sleep well last night, even after the medication for my blood pressure and the sleeping pill. I feel so dazed right now but very excited for today. The doctor said I will be a Mom! My Armand is very excited too! You can just see the twinkle in his eyes.
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Day 3 of 5

Princess Zoë in her pyjamas!

Princess Zoë in her pyjamas!

Hi Baby!

One year ago today, Mama spent her birthday at the AZM Hospital. I was referred to the hospital to have my blood pressure monitored. The day before, Mama and Papa went to see the midwife excited only to receive the news. When we were with the Gynecologist, she confirmed that indeed it was like that. That I need to stay at the hospital already as they will have to jump-start your coming out. We have to do it or it will as well endanger your life. I tried it so much to convince myself that you are really ready and very anxious to come out. We were as excied as you are.
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Day 2 to 5

Zoë's smile!

Zoë’s smile!


Hi Baby,

A year ago on this day, I was already feeling very nervous that I made Papa really worried about you and I. We went to the midwife today for the echo and control but we found out that Mama’s blood pressure is really high. Not normal. They informed us that they will be contacting us the next day for the schedule at the hospital – they want to get a second opinion if Mama is really not ok.

We went home and informed your grandparents. Oma is immediately as afraid as Mama was and asked if you are ok. I think I drove Papa really a bit insance that night when I kept on asking him if you are okay. And everytime he said yes.

Your Papa is an angel.

Love you so much Zoë!

Mama Mae

Day 1 to 5

My Pincess!

My Pincess!

My Dear Zoë,

A year ago on the first day of May, I was so excited for May 2 to arrive because we will be having our 36th week check-up with the midwife. This is to make sure that you are already in the correct position to come out, check your heartbeat, growth, etc. And of course, to check if Mama is ok.

I am also so so happy because May meant that you will be coming out sooner or later.

I love you so much!

Mama Mae

Us Happy Mommies

Judee and Cherry

Judee and Cherry

I have been pondering on this topic for a long time now until recently this has been silently voiced out by a friend who is a world far from me but who is singing my same song.

We might be deemed as lucky souls or lucky women because we found the love of our lives (praying beyond faith that we did!) and that we have beautiful babies.  Yes, this I won’t deny and without bathing an eye – we do!  Our babies are just really perfect.  (Now, I think no parent, father or mother will say that their child is not beautiful).
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About My About

My Pinoy-Dutch Family

My Pinoy-Dutch Family

I am a mother to a half Filipino – half Dutch and almost a year old baby but really a toddler.

I am based in the Netherlands and working for HP Computers.

My University Diploma states that I am an Engineer.  I never was.  A little bit, maybe.

A trying-hard writer.

I walk funny because of my broken pelvis.

I am Cherry Mae.  I am loved.

Who Am I Now?

I was having a one on one talk with my man tonight when I broke down and cried.

I am really tired.  I realized I am.

It started with “Are you okay?  What is wrong?”

I have turned myself into a working woman, a student, a household servant, a distant sister/daughter/granddaughter, a disabled person, Zoë’s overly resposible mother and Armand’s evil witch!  Yes, believe it or not, I did – or I am.  I came to understand that I have been pushing myself hard this last few months that even the smallest and perhaps most nonsense wrong that I did and has been pointed out to me – I crack! And I stomp, and I chomp, chomp, chomp.
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